Dealing with people in general or specifically partners, family members or friends can be quite the challenge. Being close with individuals will likely bring disagreements or quarrels – leading to annoyance and irritation. As an older sister, daughter and girlfriend, I get it.

There are moments when my family members are so annoying or some days I wake up on the wrong side of the bed and I am annoyed. Investigating the deeper meaning of my feelings, although valid, is a curious task.

My mother often would ask me when I call to vent about an annoyance in my life, “Are they being annoying with intent or are you just annoyed?”

She really knows how to look at the bigger picture.

I ask myself that as well and most times it is just my circumstance and me – personally. At the end of the day it was me. I was feeling annoyed and directing the anger to someone else unintentionally. Rather than being annoyed by the simple task such as washing dishes not being completed by my boyfriend, I was upset ab…